Flowers on my Grave

The other day in the car Quinn says, "Mom, when you and Dad die I'll come and put flowers by your grave."

He's been a bit curious about death lately/for quite awhile now. Wondering how many more years until his Great-Grandmas pass away. Making "smart guesses" as to which one will die first. Wondering if it will hurt when he dies. Trying to understand how souls can go to Heaven, but the broken bodies stay in the ground.

Although I've given tips and tricks for talking to your kids about death - this topic is never easy. It has turned into many different discussions - my favorite being the one where we tried to explain that when your body is badly hurt (like in a car accident) it produces endorphines that stop the pain messages from getting to your brain - so no, it probably wouldn't hurt to die like that.

We don't like to not answer his questions - and we don't try to get out of the conversation, but I never knew that having a child who liked to think could be so difficult!