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I knew this before I had kids.
Parents would stare at me in disbelief as I would go on and on about how well behaved their child is. As soon as I'd stop, one of them would say, "um, are you sure you're talking about our son/daughter? *insert name here?*" Of course I am! He/she is so good at school - always listens, follows directions, uses great manners. A stellar student!
I'd always explain that it's different. I can set up very clear boundaries and expectations and can keep those boundaries and expectations for the 2.5 hours their children are with me. It's easy. I'm good at it. At work.
Quinn's been going through some stage - that I hope is almost over. Just to give you a glimpse - we keep having to explain to him why it's okay for us, his parents, to take things away from him. His response, "But it's not okay to take things from people. I don't take things away from you. That's not nice." Today I had to have a conversation as I was tucking him into bed after a bed time routine that went sour. I won't go into the details but my conversation involved me saying things like, "having chocolate milk is a privilage and mommies and daddies are allowed to take away privilages from their children if they do not act nice" and "I know you're nice now, but since you decided to scream and kick and stomp your feet when daddy told you he already stirred it, you couldn't have your chocolate milk" and "you need to choose how you act and when you choose to kick and scream you lost the privilage of having chocolate milk" and some other things including the words, "parenting, acceptable, and decisions."
It's hard to be a parent sometimes, seriously.
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The other day I raised my voice to Liam after a frustrating amount of time asking him to stop doing something and he said, "You shouldn't YELL. It's NOT NICE."
Then I turned him into a frog for a while til I was ready to deal with him.
we're having an issue with rhena raising her voice (ok.. SCREAMING) every time she doesn't want danny to do what he's doing.
she has also taken to telling me that I need to settle down and listen to her, or I should go to my room until I can be nice.
*sigh*
we'll get there some day, right? TELL me we'll get there!!
Wait...kids grow up and start telling you how you should and should not behave? I don't suppose a "you have to listen to me now in order to access the parental college fund to help pay for school later" defense would work, eh?
Well said!
Well at least he's got mad reasoning skills! Maybe you've got a future lawyer there.
Sue - Oh yeah. I get in trouble for yelling too. Or the always angelic, "Why did you get mad at me?"
Carrie - We'll get there. I'm just not sure where "there" is!
Christie - Good luck with that one! I keep biting my tongue from saying, "Because I said so!"
Redhead- Thanks!
bejewell - nah. He wants to grow up and, "Work at Disney World so I can stay there forever and ever. I'm going to be that hotel guy that opens the doors and says, 'WELCOME!' And I'll help people push their suitcases on those big things!" So lawyer? Not in his plans as of yet. Of course he's just about to turn 4.
Sometimes parenting is the most wonderful/wicked thing in the world because you get to/have to say things like "having chocolate milk is a privilage". There's nothing else in the world that makes you say such random things and be so totally serious about them.
I got the "Mommy, you shouldn't talk with your mouth full..." the other day.
Came over from AFF...
I get that all the time from my kids and it drives me gaga. My older one went so far as to "take" something away from me once when I had done something "wrong". And yes, I was royally pissed.
Off to read your back posts! :)
We have these conversations with Miss Peach all the time...it isn't easy!
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